how much do we learn proving that we are right? nothing.how much do we learn proving that other people are wrong? nothing.how much of our lives have been wasted on these two pursuits? far too much.buddha taught his students to do what he suggested only if it made sense in the context of their own lives. in other words, if it works for you, do it. if it doesn’t work for you, just let it go.

　　our natural tendency when others give suggestions we don’t agree with is to immediately become defensive and prove they are wrong. our natural tendency when others give suggestions we do agree with is to point out that we “already knew that,” implying that the suggestion is unnecessary.the next time someone gives you an idea or counsel, listen without judgment, try to find value in what you’re hearing, and say: “thank you.”

　　this sage advice is easy to understand yet hard to practice. i’ll give you an example from my life when i totally blew it in terms of practicing what i teach. my guess is that when you read my story, you’ll agree that what i did was not only stupid, it was dangerous. i’ll also predict that you’ve done the same stupid thing that i did—perhaps even on multiple occasions.